Compass Bearings

Last week a client told me about a neighbour who had broken her leg, whose roof had been ruined in a hailstorm, and who was then waiting in dread for the third thing to happen. "These things always come in 3s," she insisted. After a week of fearful worry, the neighbour received a call from her daughter who was now divorcing her husband. The neighbour was relieved - the three things had happened, the worry was over.

There are plenty of other doomsayers around. Perhaps you have heard these expressions: "That was an accident just waiting to happen" or "I just knew that was going to happen", or "Anyone could have seen that coming". These are not examples of foresight, but of people (perhaps unwittingly) willing these things in to reality.

When we put that much emotional energy in to the things we worry about and fear the most, then we charge them with power and increase the likelihood of them actually happening. What you focus on is what you manifest in your life.

Let’s take racing car drivers as an example. If they slide towards a brick wall, they are taught not to look at the wall, as it looms ever nearer, but to focus on where they would like the car to move (i.e. past the wall). If they focussed on the wall and not wanting to hit it, then guess what? They usually hit it.

The lesson here is this: what we focus on and feel strongly about, whether we want it or not, tends to show up in our life.

This is why when we think bad things come in 3s and wait in dread for them to occur, then they usually do.

So what can you do about it?

First of all, notice when something happens and you feel ‘bad’ about it (worried, fearful, guilty, uncomfortable). This is the opportunity to make a change.

Second of all, choose to see the gift in the event. Let’s take the tax bill I received last week as an example. It was rather largish and a natural tendency might have been to start fearing any more bills showing up in the mail. This could have triggered an avalanche of money stress and worry. However, an alternative response is this: “Wow! That’s a big tax bill! That means I made some pretty big money last year! That means there are probably more moneymaking opportunities like that on its way! I wonder what they’ll be this year…how exciting!” And so instead of getting worried about the tax bill or any other bills, I switch in to excited mode as I expect more financial abundance. When I make a new sale on an ebook, or sign up a new client, I am given ‘proof’ that abundance does create more abundance and am delighted with these miracles.

A tax bill is one thing, but what do you do when ‘bad’ things happen? If you are used to feeling worried and stressed about things coming in 3s, it can be an effort to change your thought patterns. Let’s take my cancer experience as an example. It was what most people would consider a ‘bad’ thing. Just before my diagnosis I was excited about running a marathon and thrilled to have just gotten engaged to Rob. I was feeling on top of the world. How does cancer enter your life when you feel like that?

Step 1: Acknowledge that your present situation or circumstances are the results of past thoughts and feelings. We are continually living in the residual of thoughts, feelings, and actions of our previous weeks, months, and years. Up until my cancer diagnosis I had been fairly stressed, worried, and sick for the good part of a couple of years. It was no wonder that cancer turned up – my immune system was crippled.

Step 2. Look for the gift in the situation. It is very hard for most people to find a gift in a life threatening illness, surgery, and chemotherapy. It was not a fun time I can assure you. However, I do remember thinking as they wheeled me in for surgery through the fog of morphine, “thank goodness, I can stop for awhile”. The first gift cancer gave me was the opportunity to stop, relax, and reflect on my life. Next it brought me some financial abundance as my income protection kicked in and a sizeable sum of cash turned up. Then I realised how many people around the world cared about me and thought about me. I was flooded with calls, emails, presents, and plenty of love. The third gift from cancer was learning how to receive all this wonderful love. It was an amazing feeling I had never been open to before. That was the best gift ever.

Then good things kept happening – I was open to them and expecting them. And this felt wonderful! All this was a matter of where I put my attention and focus. Now I believe that even when really terrible things happen, there is an opportunity there to discover a gateway to gratitude and abundance.

And don’t you know, these wonderful things happen in 3s.

Zoë

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